Church online in spirit, Church down the street in flesh

by Marcus on September 19, 2009

community[Note to my wife: Don't read this post.]

Last weekend, TheHighCalling.org cosponsored the Christian Web Conference with the Torrey Honors Institute at Biola. It was a great conference. They even let me speak. What a bunch.

Some people “live blog” these things. Or tweet them. Or report back quickly from the frontlines like good citizen journalists. I’ve discovered that I’m more poet and essayist than journalist. I need a week or so to let the dust settle in my mind and figure out the real take aways.

Charles T. Lee is one of the takeaways. He’s the brains and the brawn behind IdeaCamp. And he posted his own indirect response to the event in the article Why Presence Does Not Necessitate Body and Its Implications for the Internet where he says:

“In the past year, I’ve found myself speaking often at conferences about social media and the online world… I’m writing this post because of a common kind of question that arises in most places I speak… Can we really be “present” with people online like we are in person?”

Then Charles defines his philosophical suppositions about what it means to be present:

  • I hold to substance dualism. This means that I believe that human beings have both physical (i.e., body) and immaterial (i.e., soul) properties.
  • My immaterial soul is who I am. My physical body is the medium through which I interact with the physical world. Although my body is continually changing [ask my wife :) ], my soul is what allows me to have a constant identity. My physically body is less essential than my soul when it comes to issues of identity. For example, say that John, who recently got in an accident, had to amputate his legs. Would he be less John than before? I doubt that any of us would ever dare to make that claim. John’s primary identity is not the accumulation of his physical parts. His souls gives him identity.
  • I also recognize that people may define “presence” differently and carry various criteria for what constitutes presence. For the sake and context of this conversation, I’m referring to a common understanding of presence where people sense that you are with them to varying degrees of intimacy. Whether it’s intimate love or deep friendship, it’s the sense that the person you are being “present” with understands to some depth of who you are and what you’re going through.

There are some ideas here that I agree with whole heartedly. I’ve certainly experienced something like real presence with the folks of HighCallingBlogs.com. Sam Van Eman, Bradley Moore, L. L. Barkat, Gordon Atkinson, Chris Cree, Tina Howard, these are all people I consider real friends.

I don’t mean that in some kind of Facebook-y way. I mean they are actual honest to goodness friends. When I’m struggling with ideas or problems, I can call on these people. Some of those guys are my very best friends right now.

So I’m wrestling through these ideas myself. But I was disturbed by a strange argument some folks made at the Christian Web Conference. They said we didn’t need the church to meet physically anymore. (Charles did not say this, mind you.) They said the church could “gather together” online just as legitimately as it could gather together in a building.

I don’t feel threatened by the idea of internet church, but I’m saddened by people who think it can/should replace physical church. Though really, the conversation reveals how limited our understanding of church has become.

Too many of our churches look like this: A big room with three thousand people. Many of them wander in anonymously to sit next to strangers, read hymns or worship songs from a screen, read verses from a screen, watch a preacher on a screen (even if he is also physically present), pass communion while a bad plays softly, and pay their money into the collection plate. (Of course, most megachurches are built on a foundation of small groups.)

If that’s how little we think of church, then move it online. We’ve nothing to lose.

Don’t misunderstand. I’m no luddite. Good gracious, no. And I attended a megachurch in San Antonio–where I would still attend if we hadn’t moved to Kerrville.

But darn it, I have trouble with the idea of dualism. Kudos to Charles for stating it so bluntly. When we fully endorse Internet Church, we are acting out of a belief in dualism. I’m no dualist.

I’ve always considered my body to be an important part of who I am. For example, I have to do something a bit harsh. Charles talks about John (presumably a real person) who could have lost a leg in an accident. He writes, “For example, say that John, who recently got in an accident, had to amputate his legs. Would he be less John than before? I doubt that any of us would ever dare to make that claim.”

I can’t speak for John. But if I lost a leg, I think I would feel that I was less Marcus than before. Obviously, I would still be myself and still have the most important parts of myself. But I would have lost something that was me. I would be a different me.

Another example, I like zombies. You can laugh, but I’m only partially kidding about the whole zombie theology thing. For me, the scariest idea about zombies is that they contain some tiny piece of who they used to be. They are monsters of course (also imaginary), but they horrify us because they are perversions of the people they used to be. They have an eternal inheritance, but it has no spirit and it decays.

But zombie inheritance has a body–and that body contains some piece of the whole person. Zombies are scary not because they are inhuman, but because they are missing the most important parts of their humanity.

A final example. On Monday, my dog died.

I buried him in the yard next to a new tree. When I picked up his dead little body, I had to hold his head. I knew that the best part of him wasn’t there. And yet, there was value in the body. And that value will pass on to the tree. For us some small part of our dog–however small–will always be in that yard in that tree.

Maybe I’m just a hopeless Romantic looking for dogs under my bootsoles like Walt Whitman.

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1 LLB September 19, 2009 at 11:01 am

So sorry to hear about your dog. I almost feel strange commenting about the rest of the post.

Okay, but as to the question of how real on-line relationships are… I have two words…

pumpkin pancakes.

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2 Glynn Young September 19, 2009 at 12:33 pm

In the last several months, I have developed what I consider real relationships with a number of people whom I only know online. I've never heard their physical voices; I've seen some of their pictures. But I consider them friends, as we tweet, post, comment and email one another. And I've come to treasure those friendships.

But church, well, church is the body of Christ. There's church universal, which includes many of my online friends, and there's the local church, where there's face-to-face, know-them-and-work-with-them-as-we-sing-together-and-work-together-and-pray-together-and-worship-together relationships. I've just returned from a work day at church, where I worked side-by-side with a retired Marine for three hours hacking away at invasive honeysuckle. What we learned about each other in that time was both spoken and unspoken, and what we were doing together was a kind of service and worship.

And I fully agree, Marcus, about the 3000 people singing the hymns from a jumbo-tron. I left a church like that after a raft of sermons on the Gospel of Jabez.

3 susanomcguire September 20, 2009 at 8:44 am

“I would be a different me.” Yes, I agree, Marcus. And that goes for loss of relationships as well. When I was married I was one “me” and after a painful divorce I was a different “me”. Whether one was better or worse remains to be determined, but they certainly are different people.

Interesting read as I drink coffee and look forward to the meeting of our local body this morning. I would miss my online friends were they not around. I think I might die without my local ones! Certainly life would not be as full and rich as it is! (life with no Cravers – not to be imagined!)

4 susanomcguire September 20, 2009 at 8:46 am

Marcus – I'm not quite sure what I did but I didn't intend to leave my full name here – please instruct as to how to remove that and still leave a comment. Thanks

5 goodwordediting September 20, 2009 at 2:04 pm

I'm reposting this comment for Susan:

“I would be a different me.” Yes, I agree, Marcus. And that goes for loss of relationships as well. When I was married I was one “me” and after a painful divorce I was a different “me”. Whether one was better or worse remains to be determined, but they certainly are different people.

Interesting read as I drink coffee and look forward to the meeting of our local body this morning. I would miss my online friends were they not around. I think I might die without my local ones! Certainly life would not be as full and rich as it is! (life with no Cravers – not to be imagined!)

6 agoodyear September 21, 2009 at 3:19 pm

I ignored you.

7 goodwordediting September 21, 2009 at 5:08 pm

Interesting, L.L. So you had an almost physical experience of eating food
prepared (in recipe form at least) by your friend Teacher Eric. That makes
the relationship real like Charles says. But I'm still wondering if that
kind of relationship replaces the more traditional neighbors next door,
friends in the same church, etc.
Are the body and the spirit fully separate? Or do we need the body?

8 goodwordediting September 21, 2009 at 5:11 pm

Glynn, you said, “What we learned about each other in that time was both
spoken and unspoken.” Isn't that the real limitation of net based
relationships? For now at least, there is no way to share silence together.
To be online is to speak or respond in some way.
(For example, my responding to this comment is the way I show my presence
here although I read the comment on Friday evening. There was no community
built exactly until I responded–either publicly or privately in an email.)

9 goodwordediting September 21, 2009 at 5:14 pm

What did you go and do that for?

10 LLB September 21, 2009 at 6:07 pm

It doesn't replace the relationships next door. Nor the church friends. It does mean I may have a place to visit when I next go to Georgia. It means he and I ate our pancakes at around the same time, and that we will keep on exchanging recipe notes. It means I am sad that his home is in the middle of a deluge.

Body is important, yes. And the best of worlds, when body and spirit are together in the same place. Yes, oh yes.

But, and this has been said before by others… sometimes we get more spirit from those who aren't with us in body. It's unpredictable, as I suspect it has always been.

11 goodwordediting September 21, 2009 at 6:45 pm

Good point about sometimes getting more spirit from those who aren't with us
in body.

12 Glynn September 22, 2009 at 3:26 pm

Marcus, it is a limitation. But there's also a kind of longing to hear a response, because you value the person the response is coming from. In a way, that longing period is a way to share the silence. But I don't disagree with your point at all — the church is most the church when you can shake hands with flesh and blood, hear the pain in someone's voice when you pray together, and feel the movement next to you in a pew when the worship is rising upward.

13 goodwordediting September 22, 2009 at 8:44 pm

I agree completely. Another thing I miss online is shared silence. Our church has lots of shared silence and that is a rare thing in the world. I'm not even quite sure what it would look like online.

14 debtalkatthetable September 24, 2009 at 8:48 pm

readers who don't comment. I like just knowing they were there.
Even when they aren't I can imagine. Just like in church when I imagine all of the families in the same spiritual space as me. Hardly seems likely, but I like to believe.

15 Bradley J. Moore September 25, 2009 at 6:23 am

marcus – I'm with you about the online church thing. I, too, have really enjoyed the new friends I have made online (which my offline friends think is totally whack) but there is something so much more “real” about in meeting in the flesh, and all of the uncomfortable awkwardness and exchange of heat that comes from being together.

I do hope to see you in real life some day soon, and I know that it will be much different than our exchanges online.

16 charlesfosterjohnson September 25, 2009 at 9:16 am

Marcus, this is a great post. Precisely the kind of essay a blog is for. Thanks for addressing a key issue.

Man, I'm sorry about the loss of your dog. Been there, and the grief is real.

You and I are a perfect example of your point: we've developed our friendship online, and I count you as a colleague. BUT, that doesn't negate my desire for face to face tactile and sensory interaction with you.

So, online communication as a tool and a means– not a replacement– for true Christian community.

CFJ

17 Jennw2ns September 25, 2009 at 12:05 pm

I guess I'm not saying anything new here, but I just wanted to chime in (to show I'm reading–I know we haven't been in touch in a while!), and to say I'm really glad you said that bit about not being a dualist . . . because *I* probably would've said it down here if you hadn't. Whether or not you can befriend someone without physically meeting them, I still feel the body is an integral part of selfhood. I think that's what the Incarnation was about.

I, too, am sorry about your dog. I just got a dog this summer, and I'm so glad to have, him, but even now sometimes I think about the sad day (hopefully far into the future) when I'll have to bury him next to a tree . . .

18 nAncY September 27, 2009 at 4:51 pm

yes, we can be present with people via on line, but, not exactly like we are present with people in person. that can also be said for the telephone, a letter, sign language, a bull horn, smoke signals, and prayer. yes, we can be present via different means, and none of them are the same. they all have unique ways of relating, but, it is all relating. i think that, without comparing, that the need for more than one way of relating with others is part of the reaching out that God wants to do. i admitt, that God's work through the Spirit is a mystery, and who is to say what He will do through any of these things.

if i do not meet you on earth someday…i will see you later in Heaven.

it would be nice to visit you in texas. we shall see.

19 cindy hanson September 30, 2009 at 11:54 am

Nice. Very nice thought lines going on over here, Marcus. I am a dualist. God gave me this body to experience this world in a spiritual way… Huh? Here's what I mean.

I go to a 'mega' church, that is big into the 'meta' church. (check out Ephesians) If we look back into history, much of the christian church was built over correspondence. What is the internet, correspondence, but on 'speed'.

However, Paul relied on laity to care for the physical need. We can become friends online, and the relationships are real, life changing, and uplifting, but until you SAY your dog died (so sorry BTW) or that you've suffered a loss, the partner in the relationship absolutely can't know that.

When I go to church, or work, or small groups…. friends there will automatically SEE there is something wrong. God meant for us to be both physical and spiritual, real and virtual. One of our eternal purposes is to care for one another, and that means physically, just as much to care ABOUT one another.

Both are essential to true maturation as the people of God. What our bodies and spirits are like are part of a bigger design, and really irrelevant in the sense that we all will come from different places, it's what growing together is all about.

20 Sam Van Eman October 16, 2009 at 1:20 am

Shoot! I made the friends list and it took me nearly a month to show up in (real online) person. Sorry, Marcus. I read your posts but somehow I missed this one.

Can we still be friends?

21 goodwordediting October 16, 2009 at 8:20 am

Of course. Sorry we didn't reconnect last night. I got to the airport
and things were difficult. We sorted it all out, but I needed all of
my mental capacity.

22 Sam Van Eman October 16, 2009 at 10:20 am

No problem. If you had called back right away, I would have been in good shape, but as I got closer to my talk and Philly (a city I've never entered, and at night in the rain no less), I had to use all of my mental capacity, too.

Safe travels.

23 goodwordediting October 16, 2009 at 12:20 pm

Of course. Sorry we didn't reconnect last night. I got to the airport
and things were difficult. We sorted it all out, but I needed all of
my mental capacity.

24 Sam Van Eman October 16, 2009 at 2:20 pm

No problem. If you had called back right away, I would have been in good shape, but as I got closer to my talk and Philly (a city I've never entered, and at night in the rain no less), I had to use all of my mental capacity, too.

Safe travels.

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